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Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Babies whose efforts are praised become more motivated kids

http://news.stanford.edu/news/2013/february/talking-to-baby-021213.html

Babies whose efforts are praised become more motivated kids, say Stanford researchers

Psychologists analyze the kind of praise mothers give their 1- to 3-year-old children and find that praising effort, not talent, leads to greater motivation and more positive attitudes toward challenges five years later.
Jo Unruh/iStock Mother with toddler playing with a toy Toddlers who heard praise commending their efforts were more likely as older children to prefer challenges than those who heard praise directed at them personally, the Stanford study found.
We think our babies are so smart, so amazing, so good. But please, say Stanford researchers, don't tell them that.
"It's better to focus on effort and the action your baby is doing. 'You worked hard on that' versus 'you're so good at that,' " says Stanford psychology Professor Carol S. Dweck.
In a new study, Dweck, with graduate students Sarah Gripshover and Carissa Romero, found that the kind of praise parents give their babies and toddlers influences the child's motivation later on. It also plays a role in children's beliefs about themselves and their  desire to take on challenges five years later.
The research, published online in the journal Child Development, is the first to analyze parent praise in a real-world setting. Previous studies have relied on experiments done in the lab.
"We've seen before that process praise, or praising effort, increases motivation and encourages strategies for handling failure, but no one had asked how this really works in a natural setting," Dweck said.
For this study, researchers analyzed video of mothers interacting with their children at 1, 2 and 3 years of age. The scholars tallied the kind of praise each mother gave to her child and the amount, paying particular attention to the proportion of the praise that was directed at the child's effort, such as "good throw," versus praise for the child personally, such as "you're so good at baseball."
Five years later, when the children were 7 and 8 years old, the researchers interviewed the children, asking questions about their mindset. For example, "How much would you like to do math problems that are very easy so you can get a lot right? "
Toddlers who had heard praise commending their efforts were more likely as older children to prefer challenges than those who heard praise directed at them personally, the study found.
" 'You're great, you're amazing' – that is not helpful," Dweck said. "Because later on, when they don't get it right or don't do it perfectly, they'll think they aren't so great or amazing."
Toddlers who heard praise directed at actions also were more likely to believe later on that abilities and behavior could change and develop.
"What we found was that the greater proportion of process praise, the more likely the child was to have a mindset five years later that welcomed challenges and that represented traits as malleable, not a label you were stuck with," Dweck said.
The amount of praise didn't have an effect, the study found. It was more about the percentage of process praise compared to person praise.
Researchers also noted that parents praised the efforts of boys more than girls. Later, boys were more likely to try more challenging pursuits, the study found.
Researchers said their findings could help parents and early childhood educators guide children toward a mindset that fosters the value of working hard, confronting challenges and learning how to deal with failure.
"Our message to parents is to focus on the process the child engages in, such as trying hard or focusing on the task – what specific things they're doing rather than 'you're so smart, you're so good at this,' " Dweck said. "Although it's never too late to change, what you do early matters."
Other authors included University of Chicago psychology professors Susan Levine and Susan Goldin-Meadow and Temple University Assistant Professor of psychology Elizabeth Gunderson.
Media Contact
Carol S. Dweck, psychology: dweck@stanford.edu
Brooke Donald, Stanford News Service: (650) 725-0224, brooke.donald@stanford.edu

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

转发。三年级

草地和鲜花感谢雨露,是因为雨露滋润他们成长。;
苍鹰要感谢湛蓝深远的天空,是因为天空让他自由飞翔。
树冠和树叶要感谢在土地之下的树根,是因为树根无私地给它输送营养;
而我要感谢生命中的对手,是她们教了我许多许多。 
—— 这是我女儿三年纪时写的,但又怎么能让我感谢你的对手。

Monday, March 16, 2015

写给阿茜

爸爸小的时候是个小傻瓜。没有上这样或是那样的课。喜欢听歌,听小说,听评书,听新闻,唱歌,看电影,看动物世界,看智力竞赛。经常搞破坏。家里的一个老闹钟,爸爸拆完就没能装回去。

爷爷奶奶总是把爸爸轰出家门让爸爸去跟别的孩子去疯去玩儿。那时候,家里什么都没有。没有lego。没有CD/DVD。没有乒乓球桌。没有ipad。也没有Computer。

每天,爸爸就是在外面跟朋友们玩,瞎玩儿。用3米长的长板条或者玉米杆或者竹竿打架。玩方块,三角,洋画儿,弹球。
- 玉米杆:stem of corn
- 竹竿:bamboo stem
- 方块:mosaic
- 三角:cigarette package
- 洋画儿:little picture card
- 弹球:glass ball

今天,阿茜你有钢琴/游泳/跳舞/唱歌。你以前还有体操/滑冰/乒乓球。每天那么忙,爸爸非常想问问这么忙你快乐吗?如果太累了,不妨就砍掉几项。

爸爸很希望能看到你能在自己的生命轨迹上快乐的生活。希望现在能一点一点带着你看看这个广大的世界的方方面面。支持你迈开自己的脚步去大胆勇敢探索。

Saturday, March 14, 2015

胸有成竹

文与可画的竹子远近闻名,每天总有不少人登门求画。

文与可在自己家的房前屋后种上各种各样的竹子,无论春夏秋冬,阴睛风雨,他经常去竹林观察竹子的生长变化情况,琢磨竹枝的长短粗细,叶子的形态、颜色,有新的感受就回到书房,把心中的印象画在纸上。竹子的各种形象都深深地印在他的心中。所以每次画竹,他都显得非常从容,画出的竹子,无不逼真传神。

当人们夸奖他的画时,他总是谦虚地说:“我只是把心中琢磨成熟的竹子画下来罢了。”

版本原文

竹之始生,一寸之萌①耳,而节叶具焉②。
胸有成竹典故漫画胸有成竹典故漫画
自蜩腹蛇蚹③以至于剑拔十寻④者,生而有之也。今画者乃节节而为之,叶叶而累之,岂复有竹乎?故画竹必先得成竹⑤于胸中,执笔熟视,乃见其所欲画者,急起从之,振笔直遂⑥,以追其所见。如兔起鹘落,少纵则逝矣。
与可⑦之教予如此。予不能然也,而心识其所以然。夫既心识其所以然,而不能然者,内外不一,心手不相应,不学之过也。故凡有见于中⑧而操之不熟者,平居⑨自视了然,而临事忽焉丧之,岂独竹乎?(苏轼文与可画筼筜谷偃竹记》,筼筜,yúndāng,一种大竹。)
晁补之写了一首诗送给他,其中有两句:“与可画竹,胸中有成竹。” 故事出自北宋苏轼《文与可画筼筜谷偃竹记》。“故画竹,必先得成竹于胸中。”

原文注释

①萌:芽。
②而节叶具焉:但节、叶都具备了。具,具备。焉,句末的语气助词。
③蜩(tiáo)腹蛇蚹(fù):蝉的腹部、蛇的腹下。蜩,蝉。蛇蚹,蛇的腹下。蝉的腹部是分节的,蛇的腹下分节、有鳞片,这些特征都与竹笋有些相像。这里形容竹出生的状态。
④寻:古代八尺为一寻
⑤成竹于胸中:在胸中酝酿成熟竹子的形态。成:成熟的,完全的。
⑥急起从之,振笔直遂:这里用了互文的手法,意即“急起振笔,从之、直遂”,就是急忙起来挥动画笔,依照、跟随(心中的竹子形象)。遂,通“随”。
⑦与可:文与可,名同,北宋梓州永泰(近四川监亭人),曾任洋州知州。文与可是苏轼的表兄,宋代画竹名师。
⑧见于中:心中有了构思。心里明白。
⑨平居:平常,平时。
⑩岂:哪里。
⑪熟视:仔细查看
⑫逝:消失。
⑬累:堆积。
⑭为:画。
⑮自:从。
⑯生而有之:这是一生长就有的。

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

为什么姚贝娜的歌好听?

流行音乐应该是外来的东西吧。西方的流行音乐很大程度上有异化发泄的表达。异化发
泄不是东方文化的常态。强烈的节奏和撕裂的高音跟中华千年的内敛含蓄截然相反。

邓丽君是华语流行音乐的一个奇迹。她的众多作品曲调幽美,歌唱甜美。但是,我的直
觉是她的歌曲表达还相对简单。这也是为什么很多卡拉OK女生能把邓的歌唱得惟妙惟肖。

一个例子。邓的表达跟众多流行歌曲作品一样,歌词是一句一句表达的。虽然字字略有
不同,每一句或几句基本上是一个单元。这个方式不是华语流行音乐的问题。其实流行
音乐的歌手大部分也就是能把旋律和节奏搞好而已。

姚贝娜是华语流行音乐的一个里程碑。她的细节把握和表达是字级别的。生命的河,
dear friend,红颜劫都是这样的作品。比如生命的河,中央台星光大道有专业歌手唱
过。真的是天壤之别。

哼唱是她的一个杀手锏。不管多么柔弱的声音,似断似离,但是总是稳定的守在那里。
天,这就是柔弱生命的声音。

开始乱写了。收手。

Friday, March 6, 2015

03/06 homework

Axi

Goldilocks and 3 bears.
New chinese story. http://brighternewfuture.blogspot.com/2015/03/blog-post_57.html
Find a good picture on internet and draw.
Singing.
Exercise.

Ber

Build a snowman in the backyard.
Draw these two logos




杯弓蛇影

杯弓蛇影


蛇:snake
影:shadow

晋书的乐广传里有一个故事。

乐广在河南做官的时候,他有一个很好的朋友。可是不知道什么原因,他的朋友很久没有来看他。乐广就直接问朋友。朋友说,上次来你家喝酒,看见酒里有蛇的样子,喝完以后就一直生病了。

乐广家里喝酒的房间,有面墙壁上挂了一张弓,上面有漆把弓装饰成蛇的样子。

于是,乐广把朋友请来让他再次看看“蛇”的影子和挂在墙上的弓。朋友明白了,自己没有把蛇喝到肚子里去。病居然就好了。

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乐广字修辅,迁河南尹,尝(2)有亲客(3),久阔(4)不复来,广(5)问其故(22),答曰:“前在坐,蒙(6)赐酒,方欲饮,见杯中有蛇,意甚恶之(7),既饮而疾(8)。”于时(9)河南(10)听事(11)壁上有角(12),漆画作蛇(13)。广意(14)杯中蛇即角影也。复置酒于前处,谓客曰:“酒中复有所见不(15)?”答曰:“所见如初。”广乃(16)告其所以(17),客豁然(18)意解(19),沉疴(20)顿(21)愈(23)。

(1)选自《晋书·乐广传》。《晋书》,唐代房玄龄等著,纪传体晋代史,共一百三十卷。《风俗通》一书也记有类似故事。
(2)尝:曾经。
(3)亲客:关系密切的朋友。
(4)久阔:久别不见。阔,阔别,离别,疏远。
(5)广:即乐(yuè)广,字彦辅,河南阳淯(yù)(今河南省阳市附近)人。
(6)蒙:受,承蒙。承人厚意,表示感谢时常用的谦词
(7)意甚恶(wù)之:心里十分厌恶它。恶,讨厌,憎恨;之,代词,指蛇。
(8)既饮而疾:喝下去以后,就生起病来了。疾,病,身体不舒适。
(9)于时:在那个时候,当时。
(10)河南:晋朝郡名,在今河南省北部黄河两岸一带。
(11)听事:官府办理政事的厅堂,亦作“厅事”。
(12)角:角弓,用牛角装饰的弓。
(13)漆画作蛇:(在弓上)用漆在弓上画了蛇。
(14)意:意料,想。
(15)不(fǒu):同“否”。不,多用在表示疑问的句子末尾。
(16)乃:便
(17)所以:因由,原因。
(18)豁(huò)然:于此形容心怀舒畅。
(19)意解:不经直接说明而想通了某一疑难问题,放下了思想负担。
(20)沉疴(chén kē):久治不愈的病。疴,重病。
(21)顿:顿时,马上。
(22)故:原因。
(23)愈:恢复。



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Monday, March 2, 2015

03/02 home work

Axi,

Daddy would like to ask you to explore something like news.  Here is another web site.

http://wtop.com/
http://www.businessinsider.com/child-genius-can-memorize-a-shuffled-deck-of-cards-in-less-than-an-hour-2015-2

In addition, I would like to see a picture from you.

Other things can be, practice singing, read English book, read out loud Chinese book...

P.E.

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Ber,

You are capable of learning much more than you can think about.  So, please not bug Lao Lao on iPad/PC.

I hope that you can do the following.
- draw a picture.  you can ask Axi for help.
- take a look at Harry Porter.  If Axi can find the book.  It is about how kids learn magic.
- When you are tired, you can search for ice skating videos on Youtube.

Daddy.